Talking to Mom

Having trouble convincing Mom to accept help? Here are some tips:

• Approach the subject firmly, with tenderness and compassion. Imagine yourself in her shoes. She might be resistant because she is afraid of losing control of her life.
• Be sure to include her in the decision-making process.
• Be positive and patient. Allow her time to process the idea and accept her limitations. This will make her more comfortable.
• Involve others as necessary—a friend, clergy, etc.
• Suggest that she just try the service, letting her know that ultimately the decision to continue is hers.
• Last but not least, accept your mother’s right to reject your suggestion. A competent adult has the right to make poor decisions. Even if you do not agree and find the rejection frustrating, ultimately the choice should be hers.